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The Grafenberg Spot, often called the G Spot,  is a bean-shaped area inside the vagina. When stimulated, many women report that is causes pleasurable sensations, strong orgasms and female ejaculation. It may be located approximately 1 to 3 inches up inside the vagina. It sounds easy to locate, but for many, its location is elusive. Much research (since the 1940’s)has been done on this spot. Masters and Johnson showed that clitoral tissue extends along and inside the labia. Their research revealed that more women had orgasms from clitoral stimulation than from vaginal stimulation. Some women, though, when stimulated inside the vagina, did experience orgasm. Other research concluded that the G Spot is actually clitoral tissue that extends inside the vagina, and that stimulation of this tissue must occur inside the vagina in order for vaginal orgasm to occur. However, studies also determined that clitoral and vaginal orgasms follow the same pattern of arousal, so, therefore, are of the same origin.  But, all women are different. Some may have extensive clitoral tissue that is very sensitive inside and out. Other women may not be sensitive inside the vagina, and are more sensitive to direct clitoral stimulation.  It is not unusual for you to orgasm only in the missionary position. Many women are like this. 

If a certain sexual position hurts/ doesn’t feel good….don’t do it. The position you describe (legs on his shoulders) may very well be uncomfortable for you. Your partner may be too deep. He may be hitting your cervix or putting pressure on your urinary bladder; all can cause discomfort.

If your current sexual practices are pleasurable and enjoyable, don’t lament about the G Spot. Don’t worry about the missionary position. Sure, try other things, but if it doesn’t feel good….go back to what does feel good.  You know the saying….if its not broke, don’t fix it.

Keep an open dialogue with your partner. He may need some continued reinforcement to know that you enjoy intimacy with him. Your partner may have some preconceived ideas about what women like, or are supposed to like, possibly from previous partners, movies, or “guy talk”. You may have some preconceived notions, too (try reading any issue of Cosmo).  Show him how you like to be touched, and encourage him when he does well.   Reassure him that he’s “doing the right things”.

Remember to relax and enjoy the moment.